It is once more that time of year. The part of the year where social media feeds are filled with one of three things: engagement announcements, baby announcements, university enrollment announcements.
And of course, each post has likes, hearts, and comments posting love and best wishes. We join in and comment.
Some of us see the news with a great smile. Others may see these announcements as painful reminders. We’re not where we want to be or with who we want to be.
But that’s okay.
We just need a little patience. In May 2016 I graduated from college. I had hopes that I would have a job after a month. Half a year later and I may have my one love in my life. A year after that I would be making a sizable dent in my school debt. That was my hope.
A year later I was still jobless, no love interest, and had not even started on paying back my loans.
It was only in April that I finally landed a job. Life is still not going the way I would like it to go but that is okay. But I remember something a Baby Boomer told me: Everyone has to pay their dues.
What does that mean?
It means each and everyone else has to go through a trial. It doesn’t matter who we are or what we applied for, we have paths we must travel. Whether we are the reporter stuck with boring stories or the medical student going through residency. The art student working as a graphic designer or the writer being denied. We must bear our burden and walk this path.
Tolkien did not sit down one day and write a generation-spanning novel. Einstien did not solve the mysteries of the math world overnight. We may see it as an instant success but it is not.
True greatness comes not from glory but from hard work.
As much as I wish that I could just skip the pain and reach the perfect happy place, this trial of fire can be beneficial.
We gain a better appreciation for our job, empathy for what others are going through, and perspective on our own circumstances.
And as tempting as it is to take a short cut it is not worth it. You will always be found out. No matter how long it takes, the truth will come out. The longer it takes to find out, the greater the fall will be.
So be patient. Be diligent. Learn what you can at each stage.